Control Fallacies involve feeling either externally controlled (helpless victim) or internally controlling (responsible for everyone's pain). This cognitive distortion can develop as a way to manage feelings of helplessness or guilt, often rooted in early attachment experiences. It serves a protective purpose by providing a sense of control or avoiding responsibility, but it can be maladaptive and lead to emotional distress.
Using Inner
In Inner, you can track moments when you feel either helpless or overly responsible. Ask yourself: 'What triggered this feeling?' and 'Is there a more balanced perspective I can consider?' Use the app to journal about times when you felt in control versus out of control, and explore how these feelings affect your relationships.
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