The Fallacy of Control is the belief that you are either completely responsible for everything or have no control at all. This cognitive distortion can develop as a protective mechanism, often rooted in early attachment experiences where control was a means of survival. It serves to manage anxiety by providing a sense of predictability or helplessness, depending on the direction of the fallacy. Understanding this pattern through frameworks like cognitive-behavioral therapy and attachment theory helps us see how it once provided a sense of safety.
Using Inner
Use Inner to track moments when you feel either overly responsible or helpless. Ask yourself what triggers these feelings and how they affect your behavior. Journal about times when you felt in control versus out of control, and explore the underlying beliefs. Notice any patterns without judgment, and consider how you can reframe these thoughts to be more balanced.
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